Mother’s Facebook Post Goes Viral
This mother’s facebook post goes viral and for a reason which is unbelievable. We all know, it’s a struggled life for any breastfeeding mother’s. Especially when they want to feed their baby in public. No one knows this better than “loud and proud” breastfeeding mom Ashley Kaidel, who recently posted a viral fight back response to the judgment she received for breastfeeding her baby at a restaurant.
Last week, Ashley Kaidel, a 24-year-old mother from Florida, USA, posted a picture of herself breastfeeding to Facebook that showed her looking off into the distance. According to Kaidel, she was looking back at a woman staring at her with disgust for breastfeeding without a cover in public. Given how controversial “inappropriate” breastfeeding photos on Facebook have become, Kaidel’s photo and message quickly hit their mark, receiving over 118,000 shares and 375,000 likes in just a few days.
Kaidel wrote a lengthy response to this common judgment, emphasizing that a mother’s comfort when feeding her baby is most important of all:
“Number one, breastfeeding mothers are protected under federal law to breast feed any way, anyhow and anywhere they’re allowed to be in all circumstances otherwise. Number two, you should not ever feel shamed, belittled, embarrassed, or wrong for feeding your baby the way nature intended. I do this for the person that has the mentality, ‘Boobs are to be covered. They’re for your husband’s eyes only. They’re intimate. It’s a personal/private thing to feed your baby. Cover up out of respect. My kids don’t need to see that. Walk out of the room,’ and any other derogatory, close-minded comments and sentiments alike.”
She continues, ” Again, breasts were made to sustain your baby’s life before they were made to bring pleasure to any other man, woman, partner, or spouse. Their sole purpose is to make food and dispense it straight into a baby’s mouth. There is nothing weird about this, and there’s no difference in me feeding my baby with my breast than you feeding yourself with a spoon.”
Quickly this young mother’s facebook post goes viral and she even got support from various social groups and newspapers. Like this one, making it to the German Newspaper Headlines for which she proudly says on her facebook,
“Keep breastfeeding and beer drinking, German mamas! Das boot!”
|Credits: Ashley Kaidel|
And she also faced numerous criticisms, like this one below,
|Credits: Ashley Kaidel|
But the smile on her face shows, that she don’t give a damn about all the criticism.
After this young mother’s facebook post goes viral, she created her Intactalactivst Mama Facebook page so that she could speak out about breastfeeding and provide support for other moms who have incurred the same judgment.
Kaidel explains that her first few attempt at breastfeeding her now 4-year-old daughter lasted only two weeks because of a lack of information and education. As a result, Kaidel spent much of the time preparing for her second baby researching about birth, breastfeeding, and attachment parenting. After overcoming major hurdles like tongue-tie and mastitis (helped by a visit to a lactation consultant), Kaidel says she is proud of her breastfeeding journey with her almost 6-month-old son and plans to nurse on demand, without shame.
A Mother’s War
After hearing Ashley’s story we are stunned. A mom jumps through hoops to successfully breastfeed her child. It’s hard to imagine that anyone would have a problem with a mother. A mother who is so committed to feeding her baby. But we see the same story time and again. A mom chooses to breastfeed on a park bench, at a restaurant table, or at a family member’s home, and is given the side-eye for daring to feed her baby without covering up.
For Kaidel, her passion to normalize breastfeeding provides benefits that extend to all moms. From her own struggles, she recognizes that not every mother can breastfeed and that “all that matters is the baby is being fed.” Supporting a breastfeeding mother’s right to feed in public is a way to support every mom’s right to feed her baby in the way she chooses.
As Kaidel tells Babble, she hopes her viral post will spark a conversation to make this pro-feeding attitude the social norm:
“It’s time to get back to basics and remember that breastfeeding is natural, beautiful, and best for both mother and baby. It’s time we make breastfeeding normal again.”